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Anger - it sounds like a dirty word, but the more we try to avoid it, the more we feel it. Is anger so bad? Is there a positive way we Moms can learn from our anger and model productive ways to express feelings?

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with anger. Anger, like all emotions, is merely a messenger. Anger is there to alert you to something wrong in your environment. Perhaps you've been ignoring your feelings of frustration, annoyance, or burden far too long. Anger is likely to be the result. Psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott once said that "Humans can be a little nicer than they feel, but not a lot." I agree with that statement! So if you feel anger welling up, what can you do to avoid exploding, especially on someone nearby?

1- Leave the situation

As soon as possible, take your leave for a moment. Explain to the person you're with that you need a moment, but don't ask for their permission. Walk away. If the person you're talking to is a very small child, you might not be able to leave them alone, but you can turn around and remove your attention for a moment.

While you're having your "timeout", do something productive. Practice deep breathing exercises. Pray. Rehearse what your next words will be so you have more control over your response. Don't just dwell on your negative feelings, find something positive you can do to restore your emotional balance.

2- Try laughter

Humor can diffuse a situation like nothing else. So if you are steaming, think of something amusing. Your favorite line from a funny movie, something silly your child did, whatever it is. Laughter helps put things into perspective and can turn around your mood quickly.

3- Decide on your response ahead of time

It's helpful to decide ahead of time what you'll do when you feel yourself getting angry. If you're a yeller, make a pact with yourself that you'll whisper when you get angry. If you're dealing with a manipulative person, rehearse a phrase like: "That deserves consideration. I'll think about it and get back to you on that."

Or write your feelings in a note. This works really well with children. For example, if your teen promised to clean the kitchen but never got around to it, tape a note to the fridge that says: "A Dirty Kitchen Makes Mom Start Witchin" Signed, The Management

Be determined to focus on the behavior that triggers your anger, not the person, and inform them what they can do to make things right with you.

Instead of saying: "You lazy, greedy brat!" try "I am so angry that you decided to play video games instead of clean up your room. In the future, I expect you to keep your promises to me. When will you be starting on this room?"

4- Analyze your anger If you lose it and blow up, try to explore what led to it. It might be helpful to write down what was happening in the hours leading up to the explosion. Was someone really pushing your buttons and instead of setting a boundary, you let them continue? Has it been way too long since you've had some time to yourself? Had it been many hours since you had eaten? What could you do differently next time?

Every parent loses their temper from time to time. It's not helpful to wallow in guilt or beat yourself up. Anger isn't an unacceptable emotion. What's unacceptable is how it's sometimes expressed. Hopefully these tips will you learn to express your anger in a way you and your family can live with.

About the Author

Carrie Lauth is the host of http://www.NaturalMomsTalkRadio.com, a free talk radio show and podcast for Moms who parent naturally. Come have a listen!

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1- Leave the situation

2- Try laughter

3- Decide on your response ahead of time

Be determined to focus on the behavior that triggers your anger, not the person, and inform them what they can do to make things right with you.

About the Author

Carrie Lauth is the host of http://www.NaturalMomsTalkRadio.com, a free talk radio show and podcast for Moms who parent naturally. Come have a listen!

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Triggers are what interrupts emotions and causes us to become angry. When we learn our triggers, we are taking a step in the right direction to control our emotions. First, we need to weed through the roots of anger to determine the problem. If you have obsessive anger, outbursts you might want to get a physical to eliminate chemical or physical roots of your anger.

Next, you will go to a mental health expert to eliminate mental illnesses that are often the root of anger. After you have done step one and two and the problem does not lie between mental illness and physical then you will need to attend anger management classes. Obviously, you have no control over your emotions; therefore, you will need to learn techniques that help you to cope better with your fears, frustrations, anxiety, depression and emotions. This will help you to move ahead in life and gain control of your anger.

You might want to ask your self what you are afraid of or what are the triggers of your anger? You might review the thoughts carefully to see if you anger is justifiable. Are you afraid to speak up and protect your rights? Is there something in your past that leads you to worry obsessively and enforce your anger? Maybe you were a victim of some incident in your past or you witnessed something that disturbed your conscious and you rambled through life without dealing with the stressor.

Regardless, you are affected somehow and your emotions are not cooperating with your thoughts. Some of us fret over things that are out of our control. For example, many of worry about growing old or dying, which is not in our hands to worry about? We all are growing older each day and it is a part of life that is out of our control. Likewise, we are all at risk of dying. It is how you deal with that makes or breaks your success. Accepting that you are growing old is the first step to eliminating worry that leads to anger.

Take the fear and reverse by telling your self that age is a factor of life that we all must face, yet I have some control. If I exercise, eat right, and take care of my skin then I may not look in the mirror when I am sixty and see an extremely wrinkled face and sagging skin. Likewise, if you know that you are dying and cannot do nothing about it, remember the more you take care of your mind and body the longer you will live.

Some of us worry about tomorrow and how we will manage to survive the next day. If you worry about tomorrow, you are missing what today can bring. No one has control of tomorrow and to worry about something that is out of our hands is wasting time and energy. If you have problems with worry, you might want to remember that today is another day and thank the Lord that you are breathing.

Worry is a form of selfishness, since you are anticipating a problem that may or may not occur. Some of us fear that we will go insane if our problems continue to escalate. This fear is not justifiable because you cannot predict your mind. Your mind may feel at wits ends, but you have control to handle your emotions if you reach inside your self and face your fears. Now we can review triggers by seeing that unjust and justifiable triggers are linked to emotions, which causes anger.

We might find that we are responsible for our emotions and failed to take charge of them, allowing them to rule our lives. We might even find a source in the past that invoked our emotions and promoted an undeveloped mind. When you find your triggers and review your problems, you are taking charge of your anger and your life will prove fruitful for your efforts. Triggers are objects, words, pictures, sound, taste, smell and when a person is triggered to anger, they often react either positively or negatively to the source.