Anger management information and therapy http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog Mon, 26 May 2008 12:00:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0 en Treatments For Anger Management That Work by Steve Hill http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/treatments-for-anger-management-that-work-by-steve-hill/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/treatments-for-anger-management-that-work-by-steve-hill/#comments Mon, 05 Mar 2007 23:22:17 +0000 admin blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/treatments-for-anger-management-that-work-by-steve-hill/ Do you feel that you are in need of some kind of anger management course? Are you looking into the different forms of anger management treatments that are available? If you have answered yes to either or both of these questions, you are not alone. I have first hand experience of the troubles that can arise from my own lack of control, over my anger. In fact my wife nearly left me because of it. Fortunately after seeking help I am now able to live without the fear of losing my temper and am back in my wife's good books.

I have always struggled to deal with any form of stress. A lot of people class me as "a stress head" and they would probably be right. After the birth of my second child, finances became stretched. I felt like I was letting my family down as I was finding it hard to support them.

I was also very unhappy at work. Despite working and trying very hard, my boss was very tough on me. He was always very negative and whatever I did was not good enough for him. I really wanted to leave this company but felt that I could not take a risk as we needed the money.

To gain some pleasure out of life, I turned to alcohol. This however was not exactly pleasure and only made things a whole lot worse.

I became quite depressed and this depression turned into anger. I was angry that I was struggling with money and struggling at work. I was becoming a nightmare to live with.

I then decided to try meditation, this was one of the best moves I ever made. Meditation has really helped me to relax and to stay focused and in control.

In the last couple of months I have started to attend tai chi classes and these have also been very beneficial.

I would certainly recommend tai chi and meditation for people who have an anger management problem.

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]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/treatments-for-anger-management-that-work-by-steve-hill/feed/ Anger Management Tips for Moms http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/anger-management-tips-for-moms/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/anger-management-tips-for-moms/#comments Mon, 05 Mar 2007 23:14:01 +0000 admin Anger Management Articles blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/anger-management-tips-for-moms-2/ Anger - it sounds like a dirty word, but the more we try to avoid it, the more we feel it. Is anger so bad? Is there a positive way we Moms can learn from our anger and model productive ways to express feelings?

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with anger. Anger, like all emotions, is merely a messenger. Anger is there to alert you to something wrong in your environment. Perhaps you've been ignoring your feelings of frustration, annoyance, or burden far too long. Anger is likely to be the result. Psychologist Dr. Haim Ginott once said that "Humans can be a little nicer than they feel, but not a lot." I agree with that statement! So if you feel anger welling up, what can you do to avoid exploding, especially on someone nearby?

1- Leave the situation

As soon as possible, take your leave for a moment. Explain to the person you're with that you need a moment, but don't ask for their permission. Walk away. If the person you're talking to is a very small child, you might not be able to leave them alone, but you can turn around and remove your attention for a moment.

While you're having your "timeout", do something productive. Practice deep breathing exercises. Pray. Rehearse what your next words will be so you have more control over your response. Don't just dwell on your negative feelings, find something positive you can do to restore your emotional balance.

2- Try laughter

Humor can diffuse a situation like nothing else. So if you are steaming, think of something amusing. Your favorite line from a funny movie, something silly your child did, whatever it is. Laughter helps put things into perspective and can turn around your mood quickly.

3- Decide on your response ahead of time

It's helpful to decide ahead of time what you'll do when you feel yourself getting angry. If you're a yeller, make a pact with yourself that you'll whisper when you get angry. If you're dealing with a manipulative person, rehearse a phrase like: "That deserves consideration. I'll think about it and get back to you on that."

Or write your feelings in a note. This works really well with children. For example, if your teen promised to clean the kitchen but never got around to it, tape a note to the fridge that says: "A Dirty Kitchen Makes Mom Start Witchin" Signed, The Management

Be determined to focus on the behavior that triggers your anger, not the person, and inform them what they can do to make things right with you.

Instead of saying: "You lazy, greedy brat!" try "I am so angry that you decided to play video games instead of clean up your room. In the future, I expect you to keep your promises to me. When will you be starting on this room?"

4- Analyze your anger If you lose it and blow up, try to explore what led to it. It might be helpful to write down what was happening in the hours leading up to the explosion. Was someone really pushing your buttons and instead of setting a boundary, you let them continue? Has it been way too long since you've had some time to yourself? Had it been many hours since you had eaten? What could you do differently next time?

Every parent loses their temper from time to time. It's not helpful to wallow in guilt or beat yourself up. Anger isn't an unacceptable emotion. What's unacceptable is how it's sometimes expressed. Hopefully these tips will you learn to express your anger in a way you and your family can live with.

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]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2007/03/05/anger-management-tips-for-moms/feed/ The Triggers Of Anger by Burt Cotton http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/10/23/the-triggers-of-anger-by-burt-cotton/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/10/23/the-triggers-of-anger-by-burt-cotton/#comments Tue, 24 Oct 2006 03:37:20 +0000 admin Anger Management Articles blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/10/23/the-triggers-of-anger-by-burt-cotton/ Triggers are what interrupts emotions and causes us to become angry. When we learn our triggers, we are taking a step in the right direction to control our emotions. First, we need to weed through the roots of anger to determine the problem. If you have obsessive anger, outbursts you might want to get a physical to eliminate chemical or physical roots of your anger.

Next, you will go to a mental health expert to eliminate mental illnesses that are often the root of anger. After you have done step one and two and the problem does not lie between mental illness and physical then you will need to attend anger management classes. Obviously, you have no control over your emotions; therefore, you will need to learn techniques that help you to cope better with your fears, frustrations, anxiety, depression and emotions. This will help you to move ahead in life and gain control of your anger.

You might want to ask your self what you are afraid of or what are the triggers of your anger? You might review the thoughts carefully to see if you anger is justifiable. Are you afraid to speak up and protect your rights? Is there something in your past that leads you to worry obsessively and enforce your anger? Maybe you were a victim of some incident in your past or you witnessed something that disturbed your conscious and you rambled through life without dealing with the stressor.

Regardless, you are affected somehow and your emotions are not cooperating with your thoughts. Some of us fret over things that are out of our control. For example, many of worry about growing old or dying, which is not in our hands to worry about? We all are growing older each day and it is a part of life that is out of our control. Likewise, we are all at risk of dying. It is how you deal with that makes or breaks your success. Accepting that you are growing old is the first step to eliminating worry that leads to anger.

Take the fear and reverse by telling your self that age is a factor of life that we all must face, yet I have some control. If I exercise, eat right, and take care of my skin then I may not look in the mirror when I am sixty and see an extremely wrinkled face and sagging skin. Likewise, if you know that you are dying and cannot do nothing about it, remember the more you take care of your mind and body the longer you will live.

Some of us worry about tomorrow and how we will manage to survive the next day. If you worry about tomorrow, you are missing what today can bring. No one has control of tomorrow and to worry about something that is out of our hands is wasting time and energy. If you have problems with worry, you might want to remember that today is another day and thank the Lord that you are breathing.

Worry is a form of selfishness, since you are anticipating a problem that may or may not occur. Some of us fear that we will go insane if our problems continue to escalate. This fear is not justifiable because you cannot predict your mind. Your mind may feel at wits ends, but you have control to handle your emotions if you reach inside your self and face your fears. Now we can review triggers by seeing that unjust and justifiable triggers are linked to emotions, which causes anger.

We might find that we are responsible for our emotions and failed to take charge of them, allowing them to rule our lives. We might even find a source in the past that invoked our emotions and promoted an undeveloped mind. When you find your triggers and review your problems, you are taking charge of your anger and your life will prove fruitful for your efforts. Triggers are objects, words, pictures, sound, taste, smell and when a person is triggered to anger, they often react either positively or negatively to the source.

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]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/10/23/the-triggers-of-anger-by-burt-cotton/feed/ Anger management and smoking http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/07/10/anger-management-and-smoking/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/07/10/anger-management-and-smoking/#comments Tue, 11 Jul 2006 04:26:18 +0000 admin Anger Management Articles blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/07/10/anger-management-and-smoking/ In this article, I write about the reasons why I decided to quit smoking. I feel that it is important that you have a number of good reasons as to why you want to stop smoking, as this will help you to get through the great number of cravings that you will no doubt have. I hope this article proves to be of inspiration and can help other people to cut cigarettes out of their lives once and for all.

When different governments around the world have attempted to convince people to stop smoking, they always seem to go down the health route. It could be by showing a man who is dying of cancer for example. I knew about all of the health risks that were involved with smoking but I still did it. This was because in my own mind these health problems were unlikely to really start affecting me for around thirty years. I used to say to myself that there is a good chance that I will not be alive in thirty years time and that I should live for today. I would also try to convince myself that if I do live for another thirty years that there is a good chance that they will have found a cure for cancer by that point. When I decided to stop smoking, health was one of the reasons why I wanted to quit, but it was by no means the main reason.

The main reason was without doubt financial. The price of a packet of twenty cigarettes in the UK has rocketed upwards over the last few years. It is not that I can not afford to continue buying them, it is that I would rather spend the money on other things such as clothes or a holiday. I have worked out that I save over a thousand pounds a year by no longer smoking. This for me is a lot of money and was what I always thought of when the demons in my head were trying to convince me to smoke just one last cigarette.

There were of course other reasons why I wanted to stop smoking. These include the amount they make your clothes smell, the amount they make your house smell, the affect they have on your teeth, the fact that most women find smoking a turn off and the sheer dependancy that one can get from cigarettes. For example I feel a bit stressed, I must therefore have a cigarette. I am drinking coffee, therefore I must smoke a cigarette.

It was very very hard to stop smoking cigarettes but all of the effort is more than worth it.

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]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/07/10/anger-management-and-smoking/feed/ Help for children who are angry or depressed http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/31/help-for-children-who-are-angry-or-depressed/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/31/help-for-children-who-are-angry-or-depressed/#comments Wed, 31 May 2006 05:55:59 +0000 admin blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/31/help-for-children-who-are-angry-or-depressed/ Are you the parent of a child who is often depressed? Are you a child who often feels down in the dumps and depressed? This article offers advice for both parents, other family members and children about how to deal with, reduce and even eradicate this depression.

I remember from my own childhood having many periods when I was very unhappy and sad. I was the type of person who would let aspects from my life get on top of me which would at times affect my sleep patterns. I found growing up through childhood, into a teenager and ultimately into my adulthood as one big choir and struggle. I was forever comparing my own life to that of my brother, sister and friends. Their lives seemed so much easier than what mine was and this made me feel quite jealous of them.

Looking back one of my faults was that I was not willing to discuss my worries and fears with my parents and basically kept them bottled up inside of me. This meant of course that I had to deal with each and every issue (problem) on my own without any outside help or advice. I wish that I had been more open with my family as I think my life would have been that much happier if I had.

I am now a parent of two children myself and am always looking out for them. I try and gage how they are coping with life and if I feel that they are in an unhappy period or mood, I then attempt to find out what is causing this by trying to talk to them. They are not always happy to discuss these issues but I then make sure that they understand that I will be here for them when they are ready to open up. I talk to them about my own childhood and about the mistakes I feel that I made by keeping my own worries to myself.

I want my children to realise that they can talk to me about any aspect of their life and that I will be here to help and not judge them. Life in general, with school as an example, can at times be quite tough, with things such as bullying affecting a lot of children. There is the added pressure of examinations and also trying to establish ones self within a group of friends. Moving schools and going through all of the bodily changes can also be quite uncomfortable for many children.

As a family we try to make our childrens home life as enjoyable and relaxed as possible. This includes many family days out and where financially possible, a family holiday abroad in the summer.

My advice to any parent who has an unhappy or often depressed child would be to be very patient with them through these periods. I, as I have already stated would try and get them to talk about what is making them feel in this way and if they do not want to talk, would let them know that I am there for them if they do ever want a chat etc.

My advice for a child who is feeling depressed would be to talk to your family, a friend or a teacher. They say that a problem shared is a problem halved and I really believe in this statement. You do not have to be alone in this world and the advice that you are given could be of huge benefit to you. Despite what you might think all children have problems and worry about many different aspects of their own life. Your parents were of course children many moons ago and may have experience in the issues which you are not happy about. Do not make the same mistakes that I did by keeping these problems to yourself as it does not help to reduce your fears or depression.

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]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/31/help-for-children-who-are-angry-or-depressed/feed/ Control your anger and stress by exercising on a regular basis http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/03/control-your-anger-and-stress-by-exercising-on-a-regular-basis/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/03/control-your-anger-and-stress-by-exercising-on-a-regular-basis/#comments Wed, 03 May 2006 20:14:22 +0000 admin blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/03/control-your-anger-and-stress-by-exercising-on-a-regular-basis/ I am sure that most people realise that there are many benefits of exercising on a regular basis, most of these people however still choose not do so. This article gives information on how our health can benefit from this exercise which hopefully will encourage more people to start.

I am one of the many people who basically finds it hard to gain any inspiration to exercise. I have over the past couple of years started a fitness routine and have not only enjoyed it(to my surprise) but have never felt so healthy.

It is a strange situation, the thought of starting the exercise is like a choir, but afterwards I feel brilliant. Despite this, I then find it hard to begin to exercise again on the next day. It is weird!

The benefits of exercise:

Helps to lower levels of stress

Helps to improve posture

Helps people to sleep

Helps you to gain stronger muscles

Increases heart and lung efficiency

Lowers the risk of heart disease and lung disease

Helps overall circulation

Helps to reduce blood pressure

Helps people to lose weight

Helps to reduce depression

Helps to reduce cholesterol levels

Helps to reduce symptoms of arthritis

As you can see in the above the list, there are many reasons as to why people should start to exercise. These are only a few out of many health benefits I could mention.

On a personal front, I have found that by exercising on most days, helps me to manage my stress levels. I am by nature a person who is quite anxious and even paranoid, exercising helps me to manage this negative part of my brain and helps me to see things in a much clearer way.

I am also somebody who basically loves food. This exercise is a great way of keeping my weight down, a form of diet which lets me eat exactly what I want.

Depression has been a regular feature of my life, however since starting my fitness regime, I do not think I have been depressed once.

Even though the thought of this exercise does not exactly fill me with joy, I will continue to force myself to do it as the benefits are huge.

I would strongly advise other people to also start exercising. I hope that they find it as rewarding and beneficial as I have.

]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/05/03/control-your-anger-and-stress-by-exercising-on-a-regular-basis/feed/ How To Reduce Anger And Stress http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/26/how-to-reduce-anger-and-stress/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/26/how-to-reduce-anger-and-stress/#comments Thu, 27 Apr 2006 02:07:10 +0000 admin blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/26/how-to-reduce-anger-and-stress/ This article looks at ways to reduce the amount people stress. I was often known as a bit if a stress head, which I have to admit was a good description of me. I have now learnt about ways to relax, which have helped me to live a much more care-free life.

There have been a number of issues in my own life which have caused me to lose confidence, become stressed and even depressed. These include:

A lack of true friends

I have had problems with debt

A stutter

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I have had problems controlling my weight

I was often paranoid about what other people thought of me

These issues have caused me many sleepless nights. I would be unable to get to sleep as I was unable to relax. This was due to constantly worrying and thinking about my problems.

I then decided to study ways in which I could increase my self-esteem, reduce the amount that I stressed and also about how I could learn to relax. After a long time, I believed that I had some tools and techniques which would help me.

Stress management techniques

Stop thinking so much

I am what people call a thinker. I basically think too much. This would not be a problem if I was thinking in a positive way but of course I was a negative thinker.

To help me in this quest to stop thinking, I decided to start listening to more music. Whenever I hit a negative thought process, I would play this music. This could be when I am in the car, when I am in the house and even when I am in bed.

The music helps to take my mind off the issues that I was stressing about.

Quit smoking and start exercising instead

Many people decide to smoke a cigarette when they are stressed. I believe that a far healthier and cheaper option is to exercise.

I will do a few weights and a few press ups which helps me to let off some steam. It also helps me to fight my anger and fears.

Learning to relax

Relaxation was something I found very hard to do.

I have now started various forms of alternative therapy such as tai chi, meditation and reflexology. These are superb at helping people to relax and also help to reduce levels of stress.

This is what has helped me to reduce my own stress levels and I hope the advice will be of benefit to other people.

]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/26/how-to-reduce-anger-and-stress/feed/ Anger management strategy http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/11/anger-management-strategy/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/11/anger-management-strategy/#comments Tue, 11 Apr 2006 22:23:40 +0000 admin blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/11/anger-management-strategy/ This article looks at strategies and gives advice to help people control their anger. I am sure that we all become angry from time to time and want to lash out at the people who are annoying us or who have let us down. This is course is not the answer and the article gives tips on how we should be responding to these situations.

I used to easily become angry and could not believe the way certain people were treating me. I wanted to teach them a lesson which would help them to mend their ways. The only way I could think of responding was by shouting at them, threatening them or by using violence against them.

I will give you an example of a situation where a person basically cheated me out of a large sum of money. I was looking at turning my front garden into a driveway and I had a number of people around to the house, all of which gave me a quote for the work.

I decided to accept a quote from John who seemed a very nice and trustworthy man. Him and his team spent a couple of days laying the drive during which I was keeping them well supplied with foods and drinks, we all got on very well.

He advised me not to park my car on the new drive for a few days to let it settle and become hardened. I waited a week and then drove my car onto the new driveway. To my horror the driveway dipped and I later found out from a friend that they had not put any hardcore (I think that is what it is called) down.

I tried to contact John but he did not answer his phone, I went round to see him and he would not answer his door. I became more and more angry and started to plan my revenge.

Walking away

I had many options through the courts which I could and did pursue. It was a lengthy process and John basically did not have any money to repay me despite eventually admitting responsibility.

I have now decided to let nature take its course and to walk away. This is not just from the situation above but from any similar event.

When me wife annoys me, I will just walk away to compose myself. I was once told to count to ten which is certainly a good idea. Being angry, like the way I always used to be, is not good for my health and causes me to become stressed, to become depressed and to lose sleep.

I now see people as apples in a bucket. Out of ten apples, three will be rotten. Instead of feeling angry at the rotten apples, I feel sorry for them.

I firmly believe in God and have now decided that I do not need to seek any form of revenge as he will be judge and jury on judgement day. At this stage these people will have nowhere to hide.

Living life this way is far easier for me and I only wish I had had this approach and form of anger management technique, years ago.

 

]]> http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/11/anger-management-strategy/feed/ How To Fight Back When The Cloud Of Doom Descends On You http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/05/how-to-fight-back-when-the-cloud-of-doom-descends-on-you/ http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/05/how-to-fight-back-when-the-cloud-of-doom-descends-on-you/#comments Wed, 05 Apr 2006 05:55:06 +0000 admin blog http://www.anger-management-information.com/blog/2006/04/05/how-to-fight-back-when-the-cloud-of-doom-descends-on-you/ I am one of those people who can easily slip into a very negative state of mind. The slightest knockback or problem can lead to a cloud of doom descending over me, a cloud which I find hard to push away and remove. This article looks at ways in which we can fight back, to quickly get us back into a happy mode.

I used to be quite a fragile character, some would say that I was even scared of my own shadow. I was always paranoid that people were talking about me and laughing behind my back.

Even though my parents are superb, I was not a happy child or a happy teenager. I am so unlucky you see or so I thought. I walked around as if the world owed me something and would often feel very sorry for myself. I was bullied at school, it was more mental bullying rather than anything physical. I am sure that most people also get bullied and deal with it. It would leave me in a state of panic and depression. Looking back I have to say I was a bit of a wimp in reality.

I decided that enough was enough by my mid-twenties and decided it was time to toughen up. I could not continue to live my life as I had been, as I would probably be dead by the time I was fifty.

I then went about a self-help program to increase my overall self-confidence and self-esteem. I wanted to learn more about stress-management, dealing with depression, relaxation and about how to become successful in life.

What I found out over the next twelve to eighteen months would change my life forever.

These are the things I had to do:

I had to stop feeling sorry for myself. Yes I am not perfect but who is.

I had to think in a more positive way.

I had to stop worrying about the future.

I had to stop caring what other people thought of me.

I needed to smile more.

I needed to learn to relax. I now use meditation for this purpose.

I had to learn to like myself.

I needed to become stronger to fight away the negative thoughts in my head.

I needed to appreciate what I did have in life, rather than concentrating on what I had not.

I started to implement the above and it helped me no end. That horrible cloud of doom, still descended however, around once a month. When it does descend, I now write two lists. What I am happy about in life and what I am sad or worrying about. I then analyse both lists and more times than not, I am actually over-reacting.

In conclusion, life is a battle. There are good times and bad. We need to become strong and learn to think in a more positive way. We have to fight back against people who bully us and against the voices in our head who are trying to make us panic. This is not easy, however with determination people are able to turn their life around just like I have.

I used to feel anger towards the people who bullied me at school. I now feel sorry for them. They are the bad apples and I prey for them. I prey that God will one day make them pure.

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It's not a matter of having a bad or good attitude. Everyone's attitude is influenced by so many thoughts at one time that it is almost inevitable that your attitude is always a mixture of positive and negative words and images. While most people speak at 150 to 200 words per minute, research suggests that we think at about 1,300 words per minute. Additionally, many of our thoughts are images, which could encompass thousands of words at once. This research led to the design of the Bubble Planner, which helps you capture your ideas before they float away (www.BubblePlanner.com).

 

Like Herding Cats. I know this seems a bit overwhelming at the moment, but if you stick with me, it will become clear. As with most complex issues, there are many causes and variations within the issues. There can literally be thousands of permutations with any issue. However, as Dr. Phil said on a recent show, "while the problems are complex, the solutions are simple".

 

Don't Yell at the Computer. What I'm about to write may shock you, but here goes. There are really only three emotions: love, anger, and fear. Love draws you toward something, anger pits you against something, and fear chases you away from something. All of your feelings are a combination of these three emotions. Whether you're happy, sad, worried, anxious, depressed, afraid, or content, these feelings all stem from these emotions.

 

This is good news. If we can understand what's driving our thoughts, then we can change them. When you make a decision, you can trace that decision back to your thoughts at the time you were deciding. Even though you may not be aware, you are always talking to yourself. Some of you just said to yourself, "no I'm not".

 

The way to change your behavior is to change your attitude. To change your attitude, you must separate the stimulus from the response. Unlike animals, humans have the ability to choose their response to any situation. There is a space, even though it can be milliseconds at times, that we may choose how to react in every situation. Many people allow their subconscious to make these decisions, which is why they feel so out of control. We can take back control. In the next part of Change UP!, I'll show you how.

 

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. 

Attitude, to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company …a church …a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past …we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.

 

We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude …I am convinced that life is 10hat happens to me and 90ow I react to it. And so it is with you …we are in charge of our attitudes." - Charles Swindoll

 

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Bubble UP! is dedicated to helping you make better choices. We believe choices are the currency that converts the present to the future. Bubble UP! creates tools that Think Like You Do!

 

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